You can have it all! Just bring your horse to water

You can have it all! Just bring your horse to water

Seems to be a slight epidemic as we age, we give up something key to our sustenance, passion and breathing. Can you guess what it is?  Our dreams.

Even if you have attained some version of a dream you once had, what next…what about those dreams in your heart that are in direct opposition to your life right now?

Nothing truly changes in our ability to achieve a dream, but our perspective. It is not because life won’t give you what you want; its all in how “you see it”.  If you believe life is unfair and you were handed a cruel twist of fate, then you will keep creating that image.

When a perspective on life has narrowed, a finger points toward all of your failures and/or successes.

When we carry the perspective of waiting for circumstances to change or become ideal, we are passively feeding ourselves excuses as to a future that we NEVER plan to create.

 Live it now. Be it now. Have it now.

Your magic formula for success may be just as detrimental to “you” as failure. Especially, if it keeps you locked in a “certain” way of doing things.

Our magnificent Universe is ALL about change my friend, its about diving-in, going with the flow and coming up for air into a new way of being, learning  and doing; a breaststroke into waters you may not have traveled yet.

We like to keep our attention on the known vs. the unknown. New unexplored opportunities, scare us.  

We may have a belief about ourselves, what we can do, our capabilities and where we seem to always fail or succeed.

Any unchangeable, locked up vision on how to live without varying from how you did it in the past will keep you in an insidious pattern, one that you may not even be aware operates underneath your perception.

When it comes to “failing”, there may be a belief that it is not what WE did, but the curve balls that life keeps on throwing us over the years.

Sometimes we don’t come out of the dugout and stay committed to ourselves through the strikeouts; we lose the belief that “this time” we can hit the ball, and maybe score a homerun in the bottom of the 9th! Sometimes, we call it a game, a season or a life and walk off the field never to return. Leaving our field of dreams behind.

You may have convinced yourself and created the perception that you will not be able to hit that curve ball, so instead you watch others play and succeed. You then take the virtual baseball bat and hit yourself over the head numerous times in self-flagellation over how you failed; beating oneself up never accomplishes happiness. All it does is creates a story that you can tell yourself to make sure you SAFELY never get up to bat again and in turn, you share this sad story with others.

As we get older, we become a collection of stories. It seems that what we thought  was possible, becomes impossible. After all, life keeps proving it over and over. 

We develop habits, ways of coping, living and  breathing through our experiences.

Our experiences have become our story.  We take ownership. Whew!!! What a relief, it keeps us from having to get back in the saddle and try again!

We personalize our circumstances as though they happen to us, not “through us!”

We don’t see ourselves making choices leading to the same outcome. We don’t see how we become immobilized through our thoughts based on these experiences. We miss our own boat.  

There is absolutely no reason to not accomplish your dreams.

Life is hard?  Really? You create that reality.

Sure, I agree…life has its peaks and valleys.

Using my favorite analogy of the river; we have NO control over the conditions of the river; the low hanging branches, rocks, rapids and brown bears fishing mid-stream. So…what does it hurt to lean back, steer your boat with your feet “through” adversity, and the perceptions you HOLD ONTO which are keeping you from success?  Let go….and enjoy the ride!

What else are you gonna do?

You could decide the river of REALLY LIVING is too dangerous to ride; you might get swept up in its current and jump out of your boat clamoring to the nearest dry land. And there you stay, settling for the safety of some dry shore; where you dock your boat, catch your breath and decide to set up a permanent camp. Hoping to avoid the unknown, your dreams and living full out!

Dreams are lost when you don’t get back in your boat and go with the flow.

It is our thoughts which incapacitate us. Its our own thinking. It stops us from participating willingly in the adventure of life.

We give up, give in and walk with our boat on our back, it’s easier right? You can handle the weight of the boat, rather than letting go and allowing it to be your ride to the unknown.

As you know even if you walk with YOUR boat; you grow tired, angry and thinking life is just this way, it sucks!

And you still are confronted with challenges, especially this one: you can never make your life small enough to control everything!  

Giving up your dreams does not mean safety and no problems. It is in fact the opposite, it seems life is frothing at the mouth with problems, when you play small. When you stay in the boat and steer toward your dreams, miracles happen and problems are not so overwhelming…you find a way to maneuver through them and become even more committed to the happiness in your heart!

Life doesn’t take kindly to allowing us to remain victims of circumstance. It comes around pulling you out of that hole you dug as you dragged your heavy boat “behind” you, filled with  disappointment, sorrow, failure and loneliness. It has a way of presenting opportunities for your dreams, again and again. Will you ignore it or jump back in the river?

Some resist getting back in the river still, they numb themselves.

They choose to rely on “coping” rather than  “living”.

Many come to think nothing goes their way, they look for safety, escape and a feeling that its all okay… which it never is when life remains un-lived.

Will you keep choosing to stay on the banks of your life?  What do you have to lose?

Going through life on auto-pilot so nothing really hurts you and staying with a routine and its safety is not the key. There is always a sense of unrest within us. Sure you may have some comfort, but really….what you are stifling within yourself is your very “life”.

We have an OLD belief system of a young child; it tells our subconscious endearing thoughts such as:  “See you really shouldn’t run through the sprinklers or play in the mud in your school clothes, you are bad”, ” My parents both work leaving me with a sitter til late at night, what am  I gonna do, no one will take me to get my items for the school project due  tomorrow”, “My Dad left, and when I see him he pays no attention to me, must mean I am unlovable”,  “I’m mean, my mom said so”, and ” I’m ugly and dumb, the kids at school  always tease me”, etc…

In our subconscious minds, these thoughts have stuck with us about ourselves  creating a belief, whether its true or not.  And we are NOT even aware of it most of the time. We all were Spongebob Squarepants as kids…soaking up our environment and the people in it!

When you are young, you don’t notice these beliefs so much, because you  haven’t had the opportunities to “create” TOO many events in your life to match those beliefs. It takes time to keep re-creating OUR stories, which is why we take our boat out of the river at some point and stop the flow.

Wanna get back in that boat? I can give you the possibilities of how; the tools to change a perception and take different action which changes the outcome…..so stay in your boat and come on downstream with me.

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