#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions

#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions It’s hard to speak your true feelings. When asked, you may talk about what is happening externally: you’re stressed from work, worried about your relationship or upset about something a friend said. But those aren’t your deeper feelings; those are actually reactions. To understand what’s really going on, […]

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#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference?

#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference? People tend to confuse feeling your feelings with ruminating. Rehashing the same story over and over is not processing your feelings—that’s ruminating. It’s a way of staying focused on stories and the meaning you give them. It’s also a way of avoiding your deeper feelings. You think […]

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#288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit

  #288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit Defending yourself is reactionary; in response to a trigger. If someone pushes your emotional buttons you may respond with, “I did that because of X, Y, Z” or “That’s ridiculous, I would never say that.” You think you’re reacting to what someone else did or said, but you’re […]

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