Why Trying To Avoid Pain Doesn’t Make you Happy

Pain sucks. No one likes it, but those who are securely attached deal with it as part of life while Avoidants go to great lengths in an effort to avoid it. Who are avoidants or those who are anxious avoidants? In the world of insecure attachment, these people are the ones who wanted nothing to

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#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships

#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships “I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They believe relationships require a lot of effort, thus feeling a deeper connection to partners who reject them. If it comes easy, something

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#355- Journey of Attachment: Making a Decision? Fear is Not the Place to Start

#355- Journey of Attachment: Making a Decision? Fear is Not the Place to Start For many people, fear motivates their decision-making; particularly the fear of loss. They think choosing this way will somehow circumvent struggle, but it just entrenches them further. Coming from fear always costs more than coming from happiness, peace or love. So why

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