#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships

#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships “I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They believe relationships require a lot of effort, thus feeling a deeper connection to partners who reject them. If it comes easy, something

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#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations

#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations How do you react when someone says you have upset them? Perhaps they took something personally that you didn’t intend. Do you get defensive or accuse them of overreacting? Or do you actually listen to how they feel? When in a defensive state, all you hear is blame and shame for

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#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions

#351- Journey of Attachment: True Feelings vs. Reactions It’s hard to speak your true feelings. When asked, you may talk about what is happening externally: you’re stressed from work, worried about your relationship or upset about something a friend said. But those aren’t your deeper feelings; those are actually reactions. To understand what’s really going on,

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#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference?

#350- Ruminating vs. Feeling Your Feelings- What’s the Difference? People tend to confuse feeling your feelings with ruminating. Rehashing the same story over and over is not processing your feelings—that’s ruminating. It’s a way of staying focused on stories and the meaning you give them. It’s also a way of avoiding your deeper feelings. You think

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#347- Journey of Attachment: The “It’s Complicated” Relationship Status

#347- Journey of Attachment: The “It’s Complicated” Relationship Status Do you put up with complicated relationships? “It’s Complicated” as a relationship status is a bit of a cultural joke because it rings true so often, but does it have to be that way? Is it fun to feel frustrated and misunderstood? Or put forth a lot

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