#382- Believing Your Kids Won’t Love You… Because You Don’t Love You

#382- Believing Your Kids Won’t Love You… Because You Don’t Love You Are you insecure about your parenting—wondering if you’re doing a not so great job? If you grew up insecurely attached without a lot of self-love, you probably fear that you will unwittingly insert your old patterns and beliefs into your kids. And no

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#333- Journey of Attachment: A Servant to Neediness

#333- Journey of Attachment: A Servant to Neediness Depending on someone else for your emotional needs is a powerless position… but being a servant to someone else’s needs is just as powerless. I’m not talking about being supportive or caring, both of which are important in a healthy relationship. I’m talking about assuming the responsibility of

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#304- But Disappointment Might Kill Me!

#304- But Disappointment Might Kill Me! Do you have a laundry list of emotions you think you can’t handle? Maybe you think you’ll be swallowed up by criticism, negative emotions, loneliness or loss—loss of a partner, status, money, job, etc. The overarching theme in all of this is disappointment. People avoid disappointment all the time because

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Withholding Love: A Short List

Artwork provided by Christopher Paul Withholding: Means to suppress or conceal.  Does it work very well when it comes to emotions? I would have to err on the side of “no”. Withholding or concealing our feelings and emotions in relationships is not conducive to connecting and bonding with another person. It creates a divide; picture

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