#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations

#352- Validating vs. Invalidating Conversations How do you react when someone says you have upset them? Perhaps they took something personally that you didn’t intend. Do you get defensive or accuse them of overreacting? Or do you actually listen to how they feel? When in a defensive state, all you hear is blame and shame for

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#288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit

  #288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit Defending yourself is reactionary; in response to a trigger. If someone pushes your emotional buttons you may respond with, “I did that because of X, Y, Z” or “That’s ridiculous, I would never say that.” You think you’re reacting to what someone else did or said, but you’re

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