#288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit

  #288- Defending Yourself is a Bottomless Pit Defending yourself is reactionary; in response to a trigger. If someone pushes your emotional buttons you may respond with, “I did that because of X, Y, Z” or “That’s ridiculous, I would never say that.” You think you’re reacting to what someone else did or said, but you’re […]

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#273- Journey of Attachment: Looking Backwards Keeps You Away From Love

  #273- Journey of Attachment: Looking Backwards Keeps You Away From Love If you’re constantly looking back at what didn’t work in past relationships as a current issue, you’re holding your own noose. Using the past to create stories like “there are no good men/women out there” or “everyone else is able to have a healthy […]

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#267- Journey of Attachment: You Say You Want a Relationship, But…

  #267- Journey of Attachment: You Say You Want a Relationship, But… If you romanticize other peoples’ relationships, not understanding why you can’t meet anyone, you have to look at where you’re unwilling to take emotional risks. It can feel hard to find what you see as an impossible ideal reflected in what other people have. […]

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