Why Trying To Avoid Pain Doesn’t Make you Happy

Pain sucks. No one likes it, but those who are securely attached deal with it as part of life while Avoidants go to great lengths in an effort to avoid it. Who are avoidants or those who are anxious avoidants? In the world of insecure attachment, these people are the ones who wanted nothing to

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#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships

#361-  Journey of Attachment: Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships “I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They believe relationships require a lot of effort, thus feeling a deeper connection to partners who reject them. If it comes easy, something

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#339- Journey of Attachment: Avoiding the Elephant in the Room

#339- Journey of Attachment: Avoiding the Elephant in the Room People cherry pick conversations because they want to avoid the elephant in the room. If someone brings up a topic you’re trying to steer clear of, you may get defensive or change the subject. It’s classic Avoidant behavior and it often comes from wanting to project

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#335- Journey of Attachment: Do You Love ‘em And Leave ‘em?

#335- Journey of Attachment: Do You Love ‘em And Leave ‘em? Have you ever gotten to the point in a relationship where you can’t stand things anymore? Maybe it’s a past relationship—or something you’re going through right now. No matter what you do or how much effort you put in, nothing changes, yet you hope your

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