#401 – Journey of Attachment: Unwillingness Is Your Issue

Unwillingness Is Your Issue

#401- Journey of Attachment: Unwillingness Is Your Issue


I hear people say they want to change all the time—whether it’s getting divorced, changing jobs, finding a partner or improving a parental relationship. They say they are willing to do what it takes, and even connect with their feelings, but the needle doesn’t move. Frustrated, they go into victim mode by getting defensive (but I’m doing everything I can!) or blaming others (my therapist is useless). The problem is, these people are only scratching the surface. To make significant changes, you have to address your subconscious patterns and beliefs that live deep inside, tangled up like barbed wire. Many people are resistant to this deeper work because it’s painful, but their unwillingness creates the barrier to change.

The more you dig your heels in and insist you’re doing everything you can, the more you’ll remain stuck in the same old thought process where you prove to yourself over and over this is as good as it gets. Until you’re willing to “go there,” you’ll keep battling yourself. Part of you wants to remain a victim and hold tight to the story that you’ve tried everything because it’s safe and familiar. Look at where you are unwilling to confront your real feelings. Not your reactions and surface emotions, but your underlying fears and beliefs. When you stop lying to yourself and realize your unwillingness is keeping you stuck, you can open yourself up and choose differently.

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