You are okay, I am okay, we’re all okay. No perfection needed. Mistakes, bad decisions and mental blocks welcome.

Why wait, join the legions of us folks on the path of “okay-ness”; I’m not suggesting mediocrity or settling for less… just real down home being “okay”!

The expectation that we can achieve something that will make us FINALLY okay, is null and void.

You’re okay NOW. Right this very minute. We all stumble, fall and feel defeated at times.

Some days getting out of bed feels like an uphill climb, and hey, maybe you sleep in the basement and uphill is what you face daily. So I say stop focusing on not being uber-successful, or un-wrinkled pressed with extra steam, white picket fenced-in, safe from all that ails humans and rise up to JUST BEING OK. Accept your soap opera lovin’ self and dare yourself to be happy anyway! Love all of you… no matter where you sit, stand or dance today.

No perfect time. No perfect you. No waiting until something comes along to make you perfect.

Life doesn’t wait for us to figure out the perfect “anything”. It keeps on skipping down the road with or without you.

Being okay doesn’t mean staying stuck or throwing in the towel. In fact, it means the opposite. When you say, “I am okay as I am,” you allow yourself to relax into who you are, and ask yourself important questions like,”Who am I?” “What makes my heart happy?” “When did I think puce was a good color for the bathroom?” Those questions lead to choices and making decisions. New choices equal new decisions, which in turn equals new life.

Basing your life on happiness rather than unrealized expectations that you weren’t crazy about to begin with is the first step. Tossing unrealistic expectations into the river may be the second.

The only way you achieve whatever you “deem” successful in this life is to feel fulfilled in your heart and soul. That is a sign of success, not necessarily having your pockets full of cash (it’s not a bad thing, but it has little to do with the happiness equation). Being okay equals HAPPINESS.

People who tell you that once you improve everything about yourself you’ll finally have the life you want are basing it off what THEIR idea of happiness is for you. And no one knows what makes each of us happy better than our OWN self.

It isn’t that advice is inherently bad or good; it all depends on what you want for yourself. The deal is though, even if there are changes you want to make (and I am a HUGE proponent of personal growth), just be okay making them. Love yourself every step of the journey. Don’t compromise who you are to try and get to the finish line faster or please anyone else on the planet. Please YOURSELF. Yes!

You may “arrive” believing you now have the trophy or the pot o’ gold, only to find it’s a plastic toy or an empty pot. And YET, that can be good!! It can be just in that moment when you realize what would really make you happy. That you are now “okay” if you get to stop and make a different decision to achieve true happiness.

And with that empty pot, a little potting soil and some seeds, you can grow anything you want. If you believe you are okay, that pot could be where you start to grow your dreams.