Securely Attached

Your results showed that you approach relationships mostly from a Securely Attached stance.

We all fall somewhere on the spectrum of Insecure to Securely Attached.

Depending on how much the description of Securely Attached below resonates with you, you may want to check out the Emotional Cleanse for Healthier Relationships program.

Even the best of us can use a tune-up!

You had a parent or caregiver that was supportive and provided comfort when you were upset or afraid as a child. They made the effort to be caring when it came to your needs and created a safe environment for you to express yourself. They did not cling too tightly nor allow too much freedom. Boundaries, for the most part, were clear.

In response, you felt safe in being yourself. As a kid, you were more empathetic and less aggressive than insecurely attached children. While you may have expressed pain when your caregiver left, you knew they would return. You could self-soothe when they did leave you.

While you may struggle in some areas, as a securely attached adult, you are willing to be open and vulnerable with another person. You don’t see another way of being. You don’t need a partner to feel any certain way—if your partner is in a bad mood—you do not personalize it. You are your happiest in a committed relationship. If something in your life needs to change, as a securely attached person, you will take the necessary steps to do it. You may fear change, but feel everything will be okay and so you are willing to risk the status quo for a chance at something better.